If we dont expect anything from others we dont get frustrated when it is not fulfilled. But when we had some expectation and it is not fulfilled we feel bad and we dont like that situation-SB Mayapur
We want others to act in a way that we like. That is the problem. So from others we should expect very less and from our own self we should expect everything and things are in control for ourself.
To carry out devotional service to the Supreme Lord,we should not keep these expectations from others.
Expectation in the marriage:
Q:there
s Expectation in the married life for the partners. How should it be dealt with?
A: Arranged marriage is the best way to set up things properly. Because when the man and woman are put together directly to discuss upon, the emotional state of their minds is too high and they think they love each other so much and then they imagine everything will be alright and nice after the marriage and nothing needs to be bothered for now.
But later on, after marriage when the partner finds that the behaviour is not as expected, there will be divorce! Because the attachments and the accustomed things are not so easy to be given up.So in the Vedic way of arranged marriage the boy and the girl are not allowed to directly discuss rather they would not have seen each other. The match is made by third person and thereby even if the match is not proper the boy and the girl would never know who is who.
Th horoscope chart gives an idea of the nature of the man and the woman and hence there can be more chances that the marriage would become a successful one.No two charts can match 100%. Even Lord Shiva and Parvathi are not 100% matching. It's only an adjustment to the expectations but the better one than the monkey marriage where people see each other on a date or something and then decide upon getting together. It's not recommmended for a successful marriage.
Also Marriage is not a part of the devotional service. Marriage itself is a result of one's attachment. But it's a best use of the bad bargain. For one who cannot immediately take up the devotional service directly, these are additional steps to make oneself understand and act religiously to gradually progress towards the path of perfection.
--- SB Mayapur + prior heard points on this topic.
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Dinesh
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