This mundane love is just a perverted reflection of our real love for Krishna in the spiritual world. Krishna is the object of love.Krishna is the God of Love.Krishna is controlled by Love. If we repose our love to Krishna,it will never be lost.
This love here is not complete, perfect and ever lasting but is dependent on many criteria.
The selfless love in this world which is closer to real love in spiritual world is found in mother to her child. She sacrifices everything for the well-being of her child without any reservation for the self. But in today's world,mothers are killing the child even before they are born, in the womb. So we will not even find this anymore in this material world.
Man is thinking of woman and woman is thinking of man and this is going on everywhere. Those in the female form, by thinking of man over and over,again and again attain male form in their next life,while man by thinking of woman gets a female body as we see this from the example of pururava. It's true that there's natural attraction between man and woman and that's the basic principle by which the jivas are bound to the cycle of birth and death.
This attraction to the opposite sex is a hard knot in the heart of the conditioned souls. It goes to the extent,I cannot live without you...I live only for you...I'll do anything for you...(we can add many such flattering..:)) etc. these are some romantic ideas which is the cause of binding.
Not just one life. Counless number of lives we have been doing the same. And we still have those vasanas in our subconscious mind and we are susceptible to those thinking feeling and willing even now,when we practice our devotion due to the momentum of the past actions. We need to gradually get rid of this I,me,mine concept of life. Everyone knows that our grandfather died,father died,we will die and the children we beget will also die. Yet we foolishly get engrossed in thinking that I am this body,this byproduct is my child.
This is nothing new. We are all trying to imitate God. Krishna is the enjoyer,the well-wisher of all living beings. He's the controller of everything that moves and not moves in the world.
We are trying to imitate the Love of Radha&Krishna. But our play will end soon while Their's continue forever. Our actual business is to assist in the loving affairs of Radha&Krsna. To see Them happy is the only desire of the residents of Vrindavan. That's Our constitutional position and is the perfection of life. Krishna comes down here in this material world to show that we can also join His dance party&be with Him happily forever. Today,everyone wants to goto parties why not join the sankirtan party of Lord Chaitanya&shed tears of Love for Krishna in ecstasy?
Since we are still suffering,marriage is a licence to purify the contamination of our mind. Of course we have to be affectionate with the wife,children and other family members with the proper understanding that we are executing our occupational duties but at the same time our goal of life is to develop love for Krishna. And when everyone works with the same motive,there'll be natural love between the jivas also to some extent but not as much as we could have with Krishna.
Our relationship with Krishna is more important than with anyone else in this world. And this should be always remembered in all our dealings with everyone.
This Love marriage in today's world is like monkey marriage. It's all based on skin. No consideration for match making in terms of character or understanding of nature of the person is possible. It's a disaster,because initially it may sound good due to the attraction to the opposite sex. The emotional levels are too high when they interact&therefore they Presume their expectations will be met in every way. And finally after marriage it's a disaster. People who have a romantic idea of marriage will end up in divorce sooner or later.
Vedic astrology is a tool that helps to assess the character and mindset of the partners and thereby find a favourable atmosphere for executing the principles of dharma. There are many sages in the history who underwent the process of marriage to purify their senses according to the religious principles. But in the case of Ajamila,he acted against the religious principles. He had a beautiful wife. He left her and went behind a prostitute.
Once there were people discussing about the noble character of Ajamila during his time.upon hearing that one astrologer said soon this brahmana,Ajamila would become wretched by engaging in adultery according to his past karma. So it's very important to match the charts of the life partners to have a good progeny for it will help by giving sober persons to the society. Only in that way can we bring peace and happiness to the world. When we understand that we are all children of God and act according to the principles of dharma&karma,we reap loving relationships with all the living beings from ant to beast :).
As far as Krishna is concerned He loved all His devotees equally. He embraced Radharani as well as calves and other animals. But we see here that people love their boyfriend or girlfriend but not their parents :)
From Srimad Bhagavatam,we read facts such as follows,
1. In old age,even the husband who has been working all the life is considered invalid. So the instruction is to abandon the family at that time and take to Krishna consciousness even more seriously.
2. The wife would feel unbearable abdominal pain and will scold the husband for anything and everything at old age.
3. Maharaja Prthu and his wife left their material bodies,developed spiritual bodies and went to vaikunta in an airplane. The spiritual bodies can pass through the material elements that are covering the universe. And they were seen heading towards brahmaloka and further above to the spiritual world,by the demigods in heavenly planets. Demigods can see both higher and lower planetary systems. On one side the demigods see the bodies of Maharaja Prthu and his wife being burnt and other side they moving above in an airplane with spiritual bodies.
Here we see that just by following and serving the qualified husband,Arci his wife attaining perfection of life.This is real Love for each other. Husband is in a responsible position to deliver the wife and children from the cycle of birth and death.
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