Submission by the wife is a psychological tactic for a peaceful and strong marriage.
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Bhakti Yoga - The Topmost Yogic Practice!
Submission by the wife is a psychological tactic for a peaceful and strong marriage.
The sky due to it's subtle nature doesn't mix with the air and the sun doesn't get affected by the things that is illuminated by sunlight. Similarly the spirit soul is distinct from the body and senses even though its consciousness is spread all over the body.
An intelligent person situated in transcendental knowledge can see that the soul actually does nothing while eating, sleeping, evacuating, moving about, but only the modes in action whereas a foolish person cannot feel his own soul distinct from his body and the type of enjoyment or suffering that he is experiencing with the modes of nature that he comes in contact.
Conscious beings get attached to their support and the supporters. But I am not attached to anything in the material world even though I am situated in everyone- Sri Krishna in Bhagavad Gita.
Sat and asat - basic understanding of spirituality
Lakshman in Ramayan was fixed in his idea to stay with mother Sita Devi according to Lord Rama's order when The Lord went to find the golden deer. But as soon as Marici shouted for help in Rama's voice she became agitated and asked Lakshmana to go for help.
But Lakshmana told no harm could come for Rama at any time. Finally Sita devi used harsh words saying that Lakshman wants to enjoy after the death of Rama as he is not going to help Rama in the forest.
This was like a thunderbolt for Lakshman who never even looked at Her face but only Her lotus feet. And he decided to go out to help Rama. Then the whole story of kidnap and war begins.
Harsh words are like thunderbolt which burn one without fire.
Bhakti-rasämrta-sindhu
Eastern Side
Varities of Bhakti
1. Overview of Devotion
2. Dev. Service in Practice
3. Dev. Service in Ecstacy
4. Dev. Service in Love of God
Southern Side
Overview of Rasa
1. Vibhäva
2. Anubhäva
3. Sättvika-bhäva
4. Vyabhicäré-bhäva
5. Sthäyé-bhäva
Western Side
Primary Rasas
1. Neutrality
2. Servitude
3. Friendship
4. Parental
5. Conjugal
Northern Side
Secondary Rasas
1. Laughter
2. Astonishment
3. Chivalry
4. Compasion
5. Anger
6. Fear
7. Ghastliness
8. Incompatable Mellows
9. Distorted MellowsThe Ocean of the Nectar of Devotion
Yamaraja then told the Yamadutas:
"Paramahamsas are exalted persons who have no taste for material enjoyment and who drink the honey of the Lord's lotus feet. My
"My
My dear servants, bring to me for punishment only persons who are averse to the taste of the sweet holy names of Lord Hari
Love and Lust - Gold and Iron
A man within this material world is just a dead body
George Harrison - Hear Me Lord
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Dinesh
Kindness is a circle
We have a general propensity to love someone
The sun has the ability to shine powerfully, and the moons reflect the sunshine and therefore look brilliant. In the Caitanya-caritāmṛta Kṛṣṇa is described to be like the sun. The supreme powerful is the Supreme Personality of Godhead Śrī Kṛṣṇa, or Lord Śrī Caitanya Mahāprabhu, and His devotees are also bright and illuminating because they reflect the supreme sun. The Caitanya-caritāmṛta (CC Madhya 22.31) states:
kṛṣṇa—sūrya-sama; māyā haya andhakāra
yāhāṅ kṛṣṇa, tāhāṅ nāhi māyāra adhikāra
"Kṛṣṇa is bright like the sun. As soon as the sun appears, there is no question of darkness or nescience." Similarly, the present verse also describes that by the illumination of all the moons, brightened by the reflection of the Kṛṣṇa sun, or by the grace of all the devotees of Caitanya Mahāprabhu, the entire world will be illuminated, despite the darkness of Kali-yuga. Only the devotees of Lord Caitanya Mahāprabhu can dissipate the darkness of Kali-yuga, the ignorance of the population of this age.
"Kṛṣṇa is bright like the sun. As soon as the sun appears, there is no question of darkness or nescience."
This material body of mine is not free from the influence of the forces of material nature. When will I be able to surpass the modes of material nature and relish Your transcendental qualities and affection in Your service? I have nothing to do with the coverings of my soul. Yet I am foolishly engrossed in the activities of these elements of this material world considering a some combination of elements as me and my relatives and friends and enemies.
I have no power on my own to transcend Your illusory energy. I am responsible for all my decisions to associate with the material modes of nature. But how many lifetimes should I rot in this material world having known the real truth about You? Unless You release me I have no other shelter. The shelter of maya is false and she kicks in all directions.
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Dinesh
My inability and Your mercy
In the great epic Mahabharata, Maharaja Yudhisthira, the son of Dharmaraja is the embodiment of all good qualities. For this reason, he is often referred to as Ajatasatru, one who has no enemies.
In many conversations Yudhisthira reveals his deep understanding of the Vedic scriptures and their practical applications. One day while living in exile in the forest, Yudhisthira finds that while attempting to drink water from a lake, all his brothers have been killed by a mysterious Yaksha (a celestial entity). When Yudhisthira arrives the Yaksha challenges him to answer all his questions or else face the same consequences as his brothers. These questions-answers are like Vedic sutras, short, pithy and practical and deal with piety and religiosity.
Yaksha:: Who is really a helpful companion?
Yudhisthira: Steady intelligence is a very good friend and can save one from all dangers.
Yaksha: How can one acquire something very great?
Yudhisthira: Everything desirable can be attained by the performance of austerity.
Yaksha: What is amrita (nectar)?
Yudhisthira: Milk is just like nectar.
Yaksha: What is the friend bestowed upon man by the demigods?
Yudhisthira: Wife is such a friend.
Yaksha: What is the best of happiness?
Yudhisthira: True happiness comes as a result of contentment.
Yaksha: Why does one give in charity to brahmanas, artists, servants and kings?
Yudhisthira: For religious merit, prestige, maintenance and protection, respectively.
Yaksha: Why does one forsake friends?
Yudhisthira: Lust and greed drives one to forsake friends.
Yaksha: What is the only food?
Yudhisthira: The cow is the only food, for the milk that she produces is used to make ghee (clarified butter), which is used to perform sacrifices, pleased by which the demigods give rain, which causes the grains to grow. Therefore it should be understood that the cow is the root cause of all kinds of food.
Yaksha: What is the king of knowledge?
Yudhisthira: Knowledge pertaining to the Supreme Personality of Godhead is the king of all kinds of knowledge.
Yaksha: What is ignorance?
Yudhisthira: Not knowing one's constitutional duty.
Yaksha: What is the best bath?
Yudhisthira: That which cleanses the mind of all impurities.
Yaksha: What is real charity?
Yudhisthira: Real charity is protecting one from the onslaughts of material nature.
Yaksha: Since dharma (virtue), artha (profit) and kama (desire) are opposed to each other, how can they co-exist harmoniously?
Yudhisthira: These three become congenial to one another when one has a virtuous wife.
Yaksha: Who is condemned to everlasting hell?
Yudhisthira: When one promise a brahmana charity but upon his arrival refuses to give him charity.
Yaksha: What make one a brahmana, birth, learning or behavior?
Yudhisthira: It is behavior alone that make a person a brahmana. Even if one who is expert in the four Vedas, born of brahmana parents, but whose behavior is not proper should be considered a sudra.
Yaksha: Who is pleasing?
Yudhisthira: A person who speaks in a pleasing manner.
Finally the Yaksha asked Yudhisthira four questions of great significance:
Yaksha: Who is truly happy?
Yudhisthira: One who cooks his own food (is not dependant on anyone), is not a debtor (does not spend more than he can afford), does not have to leave home to make in order to earn his livelihood (does not over endeavor for material things) is truly happy.
Yaksha:What is the most wonderful thing?
Yudhisthira: The most amazing thing is that even though every day one sees countless living entities dying, he still acts and thinks as if he will live forever.
Yaksha: What is the real path to follow in this life?
Yudhisthira: The best path is to follow in the footsteps of the pure devotees, for they are the actual Mahajanas whose hearts are the sitting places of the real truths regarding religion.
Yaksha: What is news? (that is What is real situation in the material world?)
Yudhisthira: The material world is like a frying pan. The Sun is the fire, the day and nights are the fuel. The passing seasons are the stirring ladle and time is cook. All living entities are being thus fried in this pan. This is the real news of what is happening in the material world which is a miserable place full of ignorance.
These questions and answers cover a wide gamut of instructions from being successful to pious to religious. Pleased by the answers of Yudhisthira, the Yaksha who was none other than Dharmaraja (the father of Yudhisthira and the embodiment of religiosity) revives all the brothers of Yudhisthira and offers him many benedictions.
What is the friend bestowed upon man by the demigods?
Spiritual warrior
The mind is a prostitute which is always trying to sell ourself for a cheaper price for ulterior material pleasures which doesn't even last for long.
The Treasure of all long lasting pleasure that we all are looking for is within the core of our hearts in experiencing our loving relationship with Krishna. Just like a young man and woman have natural attraction due to sexual impulse, let my attraction to You flow spontaneously, Govinda.
Sell ourself for a cheaper price?
How do I become serious in devotional life?
Jayapataka Swami: It is said if you serve the pure devotee of the Lord, a Vaisnava, then you will become serious in Krsna consciousness. Because a pure devotee is very serious, you will have to become serious serving him. In one case, Prabhupada’s living quarters was being painted. Yamuna Devi Dasi was organizing all the things in Prabhupada’s room and she was expecting to get praise. She was waiting for Prabhupada to praise her. But Prabhupada started looking at the paint. She then thought , ‘Oh, its not going the way I thought.’ Prabhupada was looking somewhere he must find the defect. So he’s looking and looking and finally he tried to open one window. He couldn’t open it because the paint had shut it. “Why the window is not opening?” Then Yamuna Devi Dasi, she broke down into tears. She did not get praise, but instead Prabhupada found one thing wrong in the room that the window is shut. After that she became very serious and realized, never think that we have done anything perfect. We should always think we should do better for the Lord.
How do I become serious in devotional life?
What goes comes around. If you kill, you will be killed. If you insult, you will be insulted. This is nature's laws. No one can escape. Nothing is happening by chance.A boomerang is a very nice example. If you throw it, it will come back to you at the same speed.
If you insult, you will be insulted
Some say that everything Srila Prabhupada spoke as absolute and blindly apply everything to others, may be not for the self. But if we take a step back and see, we can understand that Prabhupada was very cautious about what he was saying to whom.
For instance, one time Srila Prabhupada wrote a letter to a person saying not to eat avacadoes. But during those days it was customary to publicly read the letters of Prabhupada addressed to anyone by everyone. Later this message spread to everyone and they even stopped offering avacadoes to deities. When this came to Prabhupada's attention, he said it was specific to the person he addressed.
So while quoting letters of Prabhupada we should be very cautious. Conversations and lectures are different. It takes a lot of intelligence to really apply the right thing at the right time to the right person.
Caution - Careful in quoting the Letters of Srila Prabhupada
Thank you for everyone that came in my life. I have learnt and still learning many lessons from each of you. In the course of time I am Learning my own tendencies, strengths and weaknesses.
When there is a bad message to a king, usually the messenger is fearful to bring such a message to the king because usually a king will put the messenger who brings bad message to death. It's not the fault of messenger but it's the destiny.
Similarly we may try to punish or develop hostility with the people who are instruments of our karma. But that will not help us in anyway. Patience and Tolerance will help us to see things in proper perspective and forgive them&accept reversals gracefully as mercy of The Lord.
Haridas Thakur was beaten at 21 market places until he was acting dead himself, he tolerated patiently. So what's the point in our sighing for blame or manipulation?
Bad message of a messenger
A doctor who doesn't know the right amount of dosage to the right amount of patient is eventually going to kill the patient than helping him survive.
The duty of a spiritual master diksha/siksha guru is also similar. If there is over dosage or under dosage the patient will die. Therefore it is essential that there is conversations back and forth between the guru and disciple for better understanding. Blind faith and sentimentalism won't work.
Over/under dosage kills a patient
From: "bhakti.vikasa.swami"
Radha-vallabha: He is nineteen years old, the boy that wrote that. And he
made arrangement with another devotee to marry her daughter at a later date.
She's only twelve. So I've told him not to do anything until I spoke to you,
because I don't think this has ever been done in our movement yet, the Vedic
system. So I had a few questions about it. First of all I told them that
they shouldn't associate until the actual time that they get married. That's
true, isn't it?
Prabhupada: No, no, [before] marriage, they do not speak. That is the
disease in your country, that... There is no objection nineteen-years-old
boy and twelve-years girl, it is very good combination, but the culture is
so bad that after few days they will separate.
Radha-vallabha: Yes. That's the actual problem.
Prabhupada: If they stick to have one husband and one wife, it is very good.
Or even the man can marry more than one wife. That is allowed in the Vedic
system. The difficulty is nobody remains as wife, nobody remains husband. It
is very dangerous. That is against Vedic... Otherwise man can have more than
one wife, but woman cannot marry more than one husband. But the system --
the boys and girls intermingle so freely, and in your country there is no
restriction -- naturally it becomes adulterated. That is the danger.
Radha-vallabha: So he wanted to know that...
Prabhupada: Knowing or no knowing, they'll not do it even. So what is the
use of consulting me? They'll break. They'll promise and they'll break. How
you can make them standardized? They will break.
Radha-vallabha: They have to be responsible people.
Prabhupada: They'll never become. That is my experience. So what is the use
of consulting me? They'll never become. Almost impossible. They'll not keep
standardized.
Radha-vallabha: So then it should just be up to them.
Prabhupada: What is the use of consulting? They'll promise and they'll
break.
Radha-vallabha: Yes, you were telling me in Hawaii about that, that that is
the difficulty. They have no responsibility. All right, I'll tell him that.
Prabhupada: Otherwise there is no objection. I married; my wife was eleven
years old.
Radha-vallabha: You were responsible, though.
Prabhupada: Everyone in India responsible. That is Indian culture still.
Radha-vallabha: When they agree at this young age, they should wait till
they get older, right?
Prabhupada: Yes. Generally a girl attains puberty at fourteen years,
thirteen years. In India, because it is tropical climate... I think in
Western countries they attain puberty not before fifteen, sixteen years. So
although a girl is married before puberty, she is not allowed to go to the
husband until she has attained puberty. Formerly, in our days also, after
attaining puberty there is another, second marriage. Then the husband and
wife live together.
Radha-vallabha: Is there a minimum age for the man?
Prabhupada: Minimum age means generally the husband must be older than the
wife, at least five years' difference.
Radha-vallabha: What is the most amount of years they can be different? What
is the maximum amount of years there can be difference?
Prabhupada: Man has no maximum. Even an eighty-years-old man can marry a
sixteen-years-old girl. [laughter]
Radha-vallabha: Because this one devotee has a daughter twelve, and he
wanted to marry her to a man twenty-six, but he thought that was too much
difference.
Prabhupada: Yes. That is too much difference. But eight years, ten years
usual.
Radha-vallabha: Eight or ten years is best. So he also wanted to know if...
Prabhupada: That is healthy.
Radha-vallabha: He wanted to know also...
Prabhupada: And in no case... The girl must not be older than the boy.
That's not good at all.
Radha-vallabha: At the time of the agreement, when they are not yet old
enough, they do not associate at all. So not until the actual marriage do
they associate or wear white or anything like that.
Prabhupada: No, even they can be married, but no association.--Ref. VedaBase => Room Conversation -- February 27, 1977, Mayapur
Good advice about marriage, but they will not take it
I love you.......
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Dinesh
A Little Girls Potato Experiment Will Change The Way You Think About Food!
Wisdom is not memorizing slokas, wisdom is applying the slokas to your life
Hare Krishna Prabhujis and Matajis,Please accept my humble obeisances. All glories to Srila Prabhupada and Srila Gurudeva.When people trouble/irritate us, give us pain, speak with us angrily, our normal natural tendency is to retaliate. The golden words, "No counteraction is the best counteraction", gets evaporated from our hearts and all we want to do is to take the judgement rod in our hands and punish the people who offend us. But if we introspect ourselves, how many times were we peaceful after such retaliation? Did it do any good to us or the people who offend us? The answer is always a "No". It only caused us more pain and suffering, and made others more and more inimical to us. So neither do we progress spiritually or materially, nor do we help other souls to go close to Krishna.Ramayana tells us how Bharatha and Shatrughna were not present in Ayodhya at the time of Rama's exile. So once they returned to Ayodhya, they were shocked to hear about the death of king Dasaratha and Rama's exile to the forest, along with Sita and Lakshman for a period of 14 years. They became all the more furious when they heard that Kaikeyi had caused all this chaos, being instructed by her servant Manthara. After doing the final rites for their father, the sons returned to the palace. On the way they met Manthara and pulling her into the palace, Shatrughna said, "This wicked one shall now reap the fruits of her evil deeds! She has brought acute and unbearable pain to all in this house, as well as to all the citizens of Ayodhya. Watch now as I punish her!"He dragged Manthara violently across the floor and her ornaments broke and scattered. Kaikeyi heard her servant screaming and came quickly to help her. Seeing her, Shatrughna began rebuking her with harsh words. Kaikeyi was pained by Shatrughna's sharp words and ran to Bharata for protection. Bharata moved away from his mother and spoke to the furious Shatrughna. He said "Even when sinful, women should never be slain. You should therefore forgive this maidservant. Indeed, I would have slain My own mother if the eternal moral law did not forbid it—and certainly such an act would never be pleasing to Rama. Our pious brother would never speak with Us again if He heard that We killed this woman."Bharatha was definitely angry with his mother as well as with Manthara. But he was more concerned not to displease Lord Ram by punishing these women. This is a very important lesson for us. We are reminded of conversation between one devotee and our beloved spiritual master H H Mahavishnu Goswami Maharaj. That devotee asked Maharaj, "After your physical absence, if some one misbehaves, how to deal with them?" Maharaj gave a beautiful response. "Whenever you are speaking with that person, just think that I am standing right there next to you." Many a times we wrongly think Guru and Krishna are far far away and that it is our duty to take the judgement rod. As soon as we start thinking like that both Guru and Krishna will become silent spectators of our deeds and we will have to suffer the reactions for the same. On the other hand when we tolerate the miseries, just to please Them, then They will guide us to come out of all entanglements. Maharaj also used to say that the more you tolerate, the more good you do to your offenders.In the above instance we find that Bharatha's statements, made Kaikeyi realize that she had done a grave injustice to Lord Ram. She had always loved Ram and wondered how she decided to send him to exile. She didn't feel like blaming Manthara also as she began to understand that it was all due to will of providence and even Manthara was just a instrument in the hands of destiny. So here we see that by not punishing Kaikeyi, Bharatha was able to help her realize her mistake.So we pray at the lotus feet of Gurudev, Srila Prabhupada and Sri Krishna to help us to always remember Their presence next to us, so that we sanely tolerate the onslaughts of material nature. Only such tolerance can give us real peace of mind.Thank you very muchYours in service of Srila Prabhupada and Srila Gurudeva,Sudarshana devi dasi
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[granthraj] Effects of Tolerance
I feel so close to You right now
From: Priyadarshini bvks
yesterday only i came across these words in SB 11th canto.ch-21 text 25. you also wrote the same in your words without changing the meaning. these are those lines in SB: Vedas promise innumerable material rewards even promotion to heavenly planets, to those who faithfully execute the vedic injunction. Lord Krishna explains such rewards are like the candy offfered to a child, who then faithfully takes his medicine.Material enjoyment is certainly the cause of suffering since all enjoyable objects are subject to destruction along with the so-called enjoyer.Material life is simply painful and full of anxiety, frustration and lamentation. We become agitated by seeing a so-called enjoyable object, such as the naked body of a woman, a beautiful residence, a sumptous tray of food or the expansion of our own prestige, but actually such imagined happiness is simply the intense expectation of a satisfaction that never comes. One remain perpetually frustrated in material existence, and the more one tries to enjoy, the the more one's frustration increases.Therefore, the vedic knowledge which aims at ultimate peace and happiness on the spiritual platform cannot possibly authorize the materialistic way of life. Material rewards are employed by the vedas merely as inducement for the conditioned soul to take the medicine , Submission to the Supreme Lord.But those who are veda vata rata claim that religious scripture are meant to facilitate sense gratification in the ignorance of the conditoned life.Srimad Bhagavatam is our real friend, this i realise now. how the words are slashing us.On Thu, Jan 9, 2014 at 11:35 AM, dinesh <dineshkrishna108@gmail.com> wrote:
It was during my childhood I torture my mother and father to take the bitter medicines for diseases. For each tablet, I will make my mother wait for half an hour and she will be begging me to swallow the tablets faster.
I usually had the fear if the taste of the tablet is experienced I might feel like vomiting and sometimes it really induced vomit.
My father however had a trick to make me swallow the tablets. He used to hide the tablet inside a banana and give it to me and I would swallow some and others I would feel when chewing them.
Our Supreme Lord Sri Krishna also has similar plans for our disease which is to enjoy the matter. There are samskaras in the form of pious activities which also has restricted sense enjoyment in it. The whole idea and the purpose is to regulate our addiction to bad habits and purify us so that we can experience the love with Him. The purpose is not to increase our material sense pleasure but to gradually make us forget it.
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Dinesh
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Posted By dinesh to Krishna at 1/09/2014 11:35:00 AM
More sastric backup to "Medicine in candy - restricted sense enjoyment in pious activities"
Medicine in candy - restricted sense enjoyment in pious activities
http://vimeo.com/jplew/entrance-into-eternity-i
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Dinesh
Entrance Into Eternity Part I: Moonrise (trailer)
One time there was a news that the Himalayan mountain is going to give birth to children and there was a huge crowd to see when the child mountains are going to come. Finally, they noticed rats coming out from the mountain after such a long awaited time. Similarly the big universities of the world are creating only rat like people and not those that can help the society. The defect of modern education is it's failure to see the hand of God in everything and is producing millions of rats and Godless civilization with no aim in life.
Excerpt from Srila Prabhupada
Flash news : Universities making millions of rats