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Bhakti Vidyapurna Swami speak on family attachment,08 01 2010 Mayapur Gurukula


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Question: What if we take care of our family members who are devotees? This is also spiritual activity.

BVPS: Yes, it could be, but not necessarily. Let's say you are coming home and your kid is chanting Hare Krsna. So when you start telling him about your day, how did it go, what happened, what kind of problems you had, challenges, etc, so your kid just go on chanting? Because he is a devotee and that what the devotees do, they chant. So you are saying that if the kid reciprocates in this way, you will be happy? Because that's way you got married; you just like to be around devotees who chant Hare Krsna. But if it is like this, way taking so much trouble to get married, to raise the child, you just go in the temple and there are plenty of devotees who sit and chant. But is this enough for you? You get the point?

You say I take care of them because they are devotees, but if it is so then there are so many devotees around you don't take care. There are so many kids around, but you don't care about them. You feed your own child; you take care of your own child. Not the child of the neighbor although they are also devotee's children. Why? Because you are attached to the body of your kid, because his body is connected with your body. It is based on material attachment. You think in terms of I and mine. If you are on spiritual platform then everybody is a soul and everybody is a devotee. But you don't see in this way and therefore you are attached to your own family members.

If it is connected to Krsna, this attachment is not a problem, therefore Krsna made the grihasta asram. But to connect it with Krsna first we have to admit that it is there. We have to admit that this is why I got married on a first place, because I am materially attached. And once this is recognized then it is a question of connecting this attachment to Krsna. In this way it becomes purified and there is no problem. The problem comes when the devotees don't want to admit this attachment; they think I am just practical, down to earth, etc. But in this case they cannot purify it, it just stays with them.

It is said that with the same amount of endeavor that is needed to keep a family together one could run an empire. But if it is so, then why taking the trouble of family life, why put so much energy to work for the spiritual elevation of only 2-3 people, with the same amount of energy, if you go out and preach, you could benefit so many people. Not just 2-3 but many, many more. So if the main focus in your life is to help people be Krsna conscious, then the grihasta asram might not be the best situation because it seriously limits your preaching field to just few persons.
So one is not supposed to base his life on attachment only. Attachment is there, it is understood, but there are higher principles. Attachment means feeling; I feel like doing or not doing something. I feel like not sending my kids to Gurukula because I feel attached and don't want to be separated from them. But you are going to be separated from your children anyway, there is no question about it. It is going to happen. The only choice you have is – you will be separated from them and this separation will give you a religious result, or you are going to be separated from them and this will give you irreligious result. You will either send them to Gurukula and not see them for 10-15-20 years, but when they come back they will be trained nicely and will stay with you for the rest of your life and will take care of you, or you will not send them, you will keep them at home and they will leave you anyway and will not return. So this is the choice you have. But many devotees base their life on attachment and they don't do this because they don't feel like doing it. This is not an elevated platform.

Yes, it is true that Manu mentions that the grihasta asram is the most important asram, but it is because it supports the other asrams. The brahmacaris, vanaprasthas, sanyasis, they are beggars, they don't have money and they should be supported. But if the grihastas are opposed to the sanyasis and the brahmacaries, don't support them, then they become the worst asram, in fact they cannot be considered an asram anymore, they become grihamedi. Grihamedhi means the house is in the center of ones life. Griha means house, medhi – center. Grihast means Krsna is in the center. So it is a question of consciousness.

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Couping up with Mental Offences!

Couping up with Mental Offences!

Posted by
Vrajarani Devi Dasi on December 12, 2009 at 11:09am


I would like to share some of the very important points to be

remembered & practiced daily in our day to day life to coup up with
the Mental Offences. These points are abstracted from a SB class by HG
Gaur Gopal Prabhu. Please note that, these are not word to word
transcription of the lecture.



Prabhuji started with how important it is to please vaisnavas. We can
not see Krishna directly whether He is pleased or not with our
endeavor, but we can see devotees being pleased or not. e.g. If we
want to water the root of the tree we don't pull out the root & put
water on it, but we put water thru the soil. So, devotees are like the
soil thru which Krishna receives services……



Among all other offenses Vaisnava Aparadh is the most dangerous. In
the Purport Srila Prabhupada writes that that we can tolerate the
scorching heat of the sun on our head but it is difficult to tolerate
the same on our feet. Since devotees are always at the Lotus Feet of
the Lord, so, any offence to the devotees will not be tolerated by
Krishna.



Among the vaisnava aparadh, mental offence to a vaisnava is the most
dangerous as these are unidentified; no one is there to tell us or
warn us that we are committing offenses. Other seen offences can be
told & corrected by our devotee friends, but this is not…. So we
should be very carefull.



Types of Mental Offence:



1) Judging someone's character or motivation based on his
particular type of behavior or mistake: e.g. some time we may see that
after a long time some particular devotee calls us over telephone and
asking our wellbeing. That time we may think in our mind that there
might be some motives in his calling after such a long time, that he
wants some particular favour from me like that. Another example, some
time we see some particular devotee is doing something or behaving in
some unnatural manner, then we may think that his character is like
that only…..These are great offences.





2) Revange Fantacies: it mostly comes into our mind during japa
time. Some time it happens that we think about some particular devotee
& we think of taking some revenge. In our mind we may think that 'when
he tells this way, I will reply this way' or even we may think of some
physical revenge….. This is also a type of mental offence.





3) Imagined or Perceived Wrong: e.g. some time we say 'Haribol' to
some devotee & he doesn't reciprocate, then we may think that this
devotee doesn't like me or he neglects me like that…. All we have done
is that we just imagined wrong. May be he is thinking of something
very important & not noticed you……



Effect of Mental Offence:



a) It sucks our taste in Krishna Consciousness & Holy Name

b) It leads to verbal or physical offence

c) It leads to find fault even in Guru & Krishna

d) Eventually all our anarthas & conditionings come up, especially
LUST. e.g. Saburi Muni's cause of fall down is offence to Garuda.



Steps to Coup up with Mental Offences:



1) To remind ourselves that ' He is Right' i.e. giving him
benefit of doubt: Although we see some devotee behaving in some
peculiar manner, we should think that what he is doing is right, may
be I don't understand him. In this way giving him the benefit of doubt
we will keep ourselves from committing mental offence to him. Clear
communication is very important in this case to get the actual
situation. So, we should always get the things clarified & not think
something as our own mind tells…..





2) He Know Not: We should think that may be he doesn't know the
particular fact & so behaving like this. So, without thinking wrong
about him, we may communicate the message to him thru some one he
trusts upon. Thereby we can avoid committing mental offence.





3) I Know Not: We know that we don't know each & everything. We are
not Paramatma. So, there is possibility that what I think or perceive
is not always correct. This is another way to avoid mental offence.





4) Hate the sin & not the sinner: Srila Prabhupada always used to
quote this. He who is without fault may see fault in other to correct
him, but we should not find fault in others as we ourselves are
covered with so many faults. (Recently HG Vaiyasaki Prabhu told me
that fault finding is the deptt of Yamaraja & so let him do his duty.
He is perfect in his duty. According to Bhagvat Gita, we should not do
someone else's duty even if we do it perfectly…….). So, we should hate
the sin & avoid doing that. We should not find fault in the sinner;
rather we may try to correct him. Further, correction should be
Positive Correction and Not Forced Correction.





5) Look for Right / Good: We can always bring the best from a
person if we treat nicely. If we keep on seeing the problems, we would
be consumed by the problems. So, we should always try to see good in
others. If we are gunagrahi we can avoid committing vaisnava
aparadh…..





6) Praying for Right: We should pray to the Lord, " My dear
Krishna, if I am right & he is wrong, please change him; and if he is
right & I am wrong then please change me as I don't want to commit
offence" If we pray like that Krishna will surely reciprocate & save
us from committing offences…..





7) Write the Right: We should write the good qualities of the
devotee in a paper. If we so desire, we can even hand it over to him,
it will establish a good relation / understanding among us. Even if we
don't dare to give it to him, still it will be very helpful in our
part to coup up with mental offences.



So, these are the points Prabhuji has mentioned from practical
experiences, which you won't find any book. Prabhuji has described all
these points so elaborately with sighting so many practical examples.
I could only mention, what ever my short memory could remember.



Prabhuji also stressed that it won't work if we just memorise these
points. We should apply it in our daily life, & then we can see the
result.



So, Dear Devotees, Please pray for me that I can also follow these
steps & prevent myself from committing offences towards you & other
vaisnavas.



Thank you very much!
Vrajarani Devi Dasi

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How to Sell a Gita On Its Own Merit

How to Sell a Gita On Its Own Merit

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By Vaisesika dasa

"There is sufficient merit in our books that if you simply describe them sincerely to anyone, they will buy." -Srila Prabhupada

The Steps

Qualify your prospect with a question

Q: How do I stop people to give them a book?


A: Ask them a friendly question. Your question will not only attract their attention but when they answer it, they will feel more qualified to look at the book.

Q: What does it mean to qualify people and how will it help me?

A: It means to make people feel that they've been selected for a reason and not just at random. You are mostly approaching complete strangers. If you don't qualify them, they won't know why, out of the blue, you're handing them a book. Feeling unqualified, they will most likely reject it. But when you ask them a simple question first, and then listen to their answer before handing them a book, they'll feel that they've been chosen to look at it for a reason. They'll feel qualified.

Example:

Distributor: "Excuse me, do you live in San Francisco?"

Prospect: "Why yes, I do!"

Distributor: (While extending the book and placing it in the prospect's hand . . .) "Oh, good, then let me show you one too."

NOTES:

Q: What if the prospect says, "No, I'm from out of town"?
A: It works either way. You'd still say, "Oh, good, then let me show you one too."

The point is that whatever the prospects say in response to your question qualifies them to look at the book.

"Show" versus "Give"

It's important not to create the false impression that you're giving them a free book, and then go on to ask them for a donation. Therefore, rather than "Let me give you one of these," it is much safer to say "Let me show you one of these."

A question is a powerful communication tool. It is sometimes called a "verbal hook" because, paradoxically, it allows you to gently lead the conversation. Hence, the age-old advice: "Whoever is asking the questions is controlling the conversation."

Example:

Prospect: "Why are you doing this?"
Distributor: "You believe in God, right?"

(In this case, you've answered your prospect's question with your own question. Asking your own question in response to his allows you to reframe and move the conversation in the direction you'd like it to go.)

Trust the Hand

Until you give your prospect a chance to hold the book, there's a very good chance that he'll walk away without buying it.

Many new distributors hold back, feeling timid about actually placing the book in the prospect's hand.

Practice until you get used to placing the book into a person's hands. Soon you'll see that it's natural, because the hand's tendency is to take what is offered to it.

All the senses and limbs of the body have their natural tendencies. The eyes look, the ears listen, the feet walk, and the hands grab. That's their job, and they do it well.

We've seen thousands of cases in which people who seemed hesitant to look at a book became surprised after their hands had taken the book in spite of themselves.

But once they have the Bhagavad-gita in hand, they've made a psychic connection with you and the book. And since the Gita is Krsna Himself, the recipient often undergoes a change of heart just by holding the book for even a few seconds. Srila Prabhupada said that if they even touch the book they make advancement:

"And if somehow or other we place some literature in a person's hand, that person becomes fortunate."

Note:
You can leave the book in the prospect's hands and show it to him as he holds it. Or, as many distributors prefer to do, you can gently take the book back into your hands, saying, "Here, let me give you a quick look." A third option is to leave the Gita in the prospect's hands and show her another copy that you hold in yours.

Show and Tell

Next, show and briefly explain:

• A few select pictures
• The Sanskrit, translations, & purports
• The famous people who have read the Gita
• A couple of university reviews
• The number of Gitas printed

Showing the pictures:

Srila Prabhupada went to great lengths to include pictures in all of his books. He said that these pictures are "windows to the spiritual world."
Pictures are perhaps the best tools we have for explaining the Krsna consciousness philosophy.

Remember, "A picture is worth a thousand words."

The Changing Body (PLATE FIVE)

Start by showing the picture of the changing body. Point to the baby's body at the beginning of the sequence and say,

"See, we all start off here."

Now, making a sweeping motion with your finger, starting from the picture of the baby and ending at the picture of the old man's body and finally the dead body say,

"And we all end up here."

Conclude with,

"See, we're all just passing through."

Note:

If you've seen this picture many times, you may have come to take it for granted. However, you'll find that most people who see this presentation for the first time are fascinated by it. The Changing Body is by far the most popular exhibit at The Festival of India. You might even notice that some people have a visceral reaction to it. People rarely visualize the entire span of their lives. However, with this simple presentation, your prospects will literally see their entire lives passing before their eyes.

The Three Modes of Material Nature (PLATE SIX)

Show the picture of the two men being controlled by the three modes of material nature. Krsna is at the top. Below Him are the three modes personified who, like puppeteers, are controlling two men below them with a series of strings.

Explain the picture:

"This picture shows that we are all controlled by three modes of nature — goodness, passion and ignorance."

Now point to each of the modes in succession saying:

"Goodness brings wisdom, satisfaction and peacefulness."

"Passion brings the desire to get ahead in life and the impetus to work hard to get more material stuff."

"And ignorance brings sleep, laziness, intoxication and the tendency to put things off."

Then ask them:

"Which one do you think influences you the most?"

Sample responses:

Prospect: "I think I'm goodness."

You: "You look like you're in goodness. I can see it in your eyes."

If they indicate that they're most influenced by passion or ignorance, you can say:

"Me too! Actually, we're all under these modes to some degree, aren't we?"

Humble Sage (PLATE SEVEN)

Next, show the picture of the humble sage who sees with equal vision the brahmana, cow, elephant, etc.

Say,

"Here's a picture of the spiritually advanced person.

"A spiritually advanced person treats everyone with respect because he or she sees that the body is only a dress for the soul and that God is in everyone's heart."

Note:

Most people agree with this definition of a spiritually advanced person and especially like the concept that such a person has respect for all.

The Body as a Chariot (PLATE NINE)

Next show the picture of the soul as a passenger on the chariot of the body.

Explain that each one of our senses is like a powerful horse, the reins are our like our minds, the driver like our intelligence, and that we, the soul, are like the passengers on this chariot-like body.

Point out that yoga, as taught by the Bhagavad gita, teaches us how to bring the senses, mind and intelligence under our control.

Finish with,
"If our horses — the senses — are out of control, we're in for a very wild ride!"

The Sitting Yogi (PLATE TEN)

The next picture to show is that of the yogi sitting with matted hair and long fingernails, as his soul is leaving this world through the top of his head.

In a light-hearted way, just point to the picture and say,

"This guy's been sitting here for a while, eh?"

Karma (PLATE TWELVE)

Next, show the picture of the man with a cow's face, getting ready to butcher the cow with the man's face.

Say,

"You've heard of Karma, right?"

Then, using your index finger for emphasis, draw a circle in the air while saying,

"What goes around comes around."

Sanskrit, Translation and Purport

Next, turn to any verse in the Gita, point out the Sanskrit text, and say,

"This is the ancient Sanskrit language. It's a very precise and complicated language that very few people know these days. The author of this book has unlocked all of its secret meanings given here in the translations and purports" (point to the translations and purports).

Name Dropping

Next, turn to the back cover of the Gita and point out the names of Thoreau, Emerson, and Gandhi as you say,

"The Gita has been read by great thinkers throughout history.
You've heard of Thoreau, Emerson and Gandhi, right?"

Finally add,

"Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and Einstein also studied the Gita."

University Reviews

Next, turn to the first couple of pages in the front of the Gita and point out the reviews by scholars and academic institutions.

Point to University of Southern California and Georgetown University and say,

"You've heard of USC and Georgetown University, right?"

"This book is used in major universities all over the world."

Printings

Next, turn to the page near the front of the Gita that shows "previous printings (790,000) and current printing (2004: 80,000) and say,

"See, we've printed nearly a million copies of this book for distribution here in America. We also have them in many other languages."

Asking for a Donation

By this time, your prospect will have understood the great value of the Gita and will want a copy of her own. Now you can explain what she can do to take the book home.

Now, as you gesture toward your prospect, say,

"My job is to select the nicest and most intelligent people to show these to."

Then,

"We do this as a benefit to spread love for God and to propagate spiritual knowledge all over the world.

"So people give donations to help our work and to help us out with the printing costs.

"After printing, tax, shipping, & handling, the book costs us around eight dollars. Most people give between ten and twenty to help us out."

Variations on Donation Requests

"We do this to systematically propagate spiritual knowledge to society at large and to educate people in the techniques of spiritual life in order to create real unity and peace in the world."

"So people give donations to help our work and to help us out with the printing costs.

"After printing, tax, shipping, & handling, the book costs us around eight dollars. Most people give between ten and twenty to help us out."

______

"We're helping people in suffering conditions so we ask everyone to give a donation."

"After printing, tax, shipping, & handling, the book costs us around eight dollars. Most people give between ten and twenty dollars to help us out."

Other Presentations

Gratitude

"This book teaches about bhakti yoga — the yoga of gratitude."

"Have you noticed that when you have gratitude, it doesn't matter what your external surroundings are, you're always happy?"

"And on the other hand, if you don't have gratitude, no matter how many material things you have, you can't be happy."

God

"These are spiritual books meant to awaken our pure love for God. You
Believe in God, right?"

The Happiness Within

"This book teaches that real happiness comes from within your own heart because God is in everyone's heart."

"Nowadays, we have fast Internet, five-lane freeways, and skyscrapers. But are people any happier than they were before these things existed? That's because real happiness comes from within."

Objections

In a Hurry

They say:

"I'm in a hurry."

You ask:

"Are you in a big hurry?"

They say:

"Yes."

You ask:

"Do you want me to show this to you really quickly then?"

Note:

Remember, answering an objection with a question allows you to reframe the issue, giving you a chance to show the book in spite of the objection. Become a Master Asker.

Religious Objections

Born Again Christians

Note: Most times, a born again Christian will inform you that he or she is "born again" or that he or she "only follows Lord Jesus Christ." We recommend that you not spend a lot of time with these well-intentioned folks. They are not usually good prospects and if you don't learn how to break away quickly you'll waste a large portion of your preaching time listening to them explain their dogma.

Here's how . . .

They say:

"I'm a born again Christian."

You say:

"Oh, that's wonderful. We need more people like you in the world. It's people of faith like you who are keeping the world afloat."

Note:
At this point it's best to smile and let them go on their way.

Don't believe in "organized religion."

They Ask:

"Is this about religion?"

Note: Most times people who say they don't believe in "organized religion" will ask this question. What they really mean to ask is, "Is this another one of those cheating religions?"

You say,

"No. This is the opposite. In religion, they tell you what to do. This book points out that it's your duty to find out the truth for yourself. It's all inside of you."

Price Objections

They say:

"I don't have any cash."

You say:

"We generally don't take cash. Most people use a credit card."

Note:
You should be set up to accept credit cards.

They say:

"I don't have any money."

You say:

"That's all right, just give what you can. And if you'd rather, I can give you a smaller book that costs less to print."

Note:

When people say, "I don't have any money," it usually means that they're not sure how much they should donate or that the amount you've suggested to cover the cost of printing the book is too high for them.

Lasting Impressions

Our top objective is to leave everyone with a good impression. Make sure to do your best to leave each person feeling that you are his or her well-wisher and that you're out there to give them something valuable.

Be humble and considerate. Remember that you're in public and that people are watching you. Everything you do and say matters.

People will form an opinion about the "Hare Krsna's" based on your behavior towards them. Become an ambassador of goodwill. Make friends with people as much as possible.

Parting words matter

Say (even if they can't donate):

"Thank you for taking your valuable time."

"It was an honor meeting you."

Smile. Wave to people and wish them a good day. Be friendly to everyone. Give compliments liberally.

Note: If you keep speaking positive words like this to everyone you meet, more people will be naturally inclined to say yes.

Fan the Spark

After someone gives a donation for a book, you have an ideal opportunity to teach him or her the Maha Mantra.

You say:

"Do you believe in the power of prayer?" (You can substitute the term, "mantra" for "prayer" if you're dealing with an agnostic.)

They say:

"Yes."

You say:

"Great. Let me teach you this ancient prayer that comes from the Sanskrit language."

Now hand them a card with the Maha Mantra on it and ask them to repeat after you:

"Hare Krsna Hare Krsna Krsna Krsna Hare Hare
Hare Rama Hare Rama Rama Rama Hare Hare."


Your Servant In Service Of Srila Prabhupada and Gurudev,
Sachin Kumar Gupta
Chant:Hare Krishna Hare Krishna Krishna Krishna Hare Hare,Hare Rama Hare Rama Rama Rama Hare Hare.& be Happy


--
Yours Servant

Sri Krishna Hari Das
(Dr Satish Gosain MBBS DNB i Med)
Congregational Preacher, ISKCON, Delhi, NCR & Gurgaon.


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