What goes comes around. If you kill, you will be killed. If you insult, you will be insulted. This is nature's laws. No one can escape. Nothing is happening by chance.A boomerang is a very nice example. If you throw it, it will come back to you at the same speed.
Some say that everything Srila Prabhupada spoke as absolute and blindly apply everything to others, may be not for the self. But if we take a step back and see, we can understand that Prabhupada was very cautious about what he was saying to whom.
For instance, one time Srila Prabhupada wrote a letter to a person saying not to eat avacadoes. But during those days it was customary to publicly read the letters of Prabhupada addressed to anyone by everyone. Later this message spread to everyone and they even stopped offering avacadoes to deities. When this came to Prabhupada's attention, he said it was specific to the person he addressed.
So while quoting letters of Prabhupada we should be very cautious. Conversations and lectures are different. It takes a lot of intelligence to really apply the right thing at the right time to the right person.
Thank you for everyone that came in my life. I have learnt and still learning many lessons from each of you. In the course of time I am Learning my own tendencies, strengths and weaknesses.
When there is a bad message to a king, usually the messenger is fearful to bring such a message to the king because usually a king will put the messenger who brings bad message to death. It's not the fault of messenger but it's the destiny.
Similarly we may try to punish or develop hostility with the people who are instruments of our karma. But that will not help us in anyway. Patience and Tolerance will help us to see things in proper perspective and forgive them&accept reversals gracefully as mercy of The Lord.
Haridas Thakur was beaten at 21 market places until he was acting dead himself, he tolerated patiently. So what's the point in our sighing for blame or manipulation?
A doctor who doesn't know the right amount of dosage to the right amount of patient is eventually going to kill the patient than helping him survive.
The duty of a spiritual master diksha/siksha guru is also similar. If there is over dosage or under dosage the patient will die. Therefore it is essential that there is conversations back and forth between the guru and disciple for better understanding. Blind faith and sentimentalism won't work.
From: "bhakti.vikasa.swami"
Radha-vallabha: He is nineteen years old, the boy that wrote that. And he
made arrangement with another devotee to marry her daughter at a later date.
She's only twelve. So I've told him not to do anything until I spoke to you,
because I don't think this has ever been done in our movement yet, the Vedic
system. So I had a few questions about it. First of all I told them that
they shouldn't associate until the actual time that they get married. That's
true, isn't it?
Prabhupada: No, no, [before] marriage, they do not speak. That is the
disease in your country, that... There is no objection nineteen-years-old
boy and twelve-years girl, it is very good combination, but the culture is
so bad that after few days they will separate.
Radha-vallabha: Yes. That's the actual problem.
Prabhupada: If they stick to have one husband and one wife, it is very good.
Or even the man can marry more than one wife. That is allowed in the Vedic
system. The difficulty is nobody remains as wife, nobody remains husband. It
is very dangerous. That is against Vedic... Otherwise man can have more than
one wife, but woman cannot marry more than one husband. But the system --
the boys and girls intermingle so freely, and in your country there is no
restriction -- naturally it becomes adulterated. That is the danger.
Radha-vallabha: So he wanted to know that...
Prabhupada: Knowing or no knowing, they'll not do it even. So what is the
use of consulting me? They'll break. They'll promise and they'll break. How
you can make them standardized? They will break.
Radha-vallabha: They have to be responsible people.
Prabhupada: They'll never become. That is my experience. So what is the use
of consulting me? They'll never become. Almost impossible. They'll not keep
standardized.
Radha-vallabha: So then it should just be up to them.
Prabhupada: What is the use of consulting? They'll promise and they'll
break.
Radha-vallabha: Yes, you were telling me in Hawaii about that, that that is
the difficulty. They have no responsibility. All right, I'll tell him that.
Prabhupada: Otherwise there is no objection. I married; my wife was eleven
years old.
Radha-vallabha: You were responsible, though.
Prabhupada: Everyone in India responsible. That is Indian culture still.
Radha-vallabha: When they agree at this young age, they should wait till
they get older, right?
Prabhupada: Yes. Generally a girl attains puberty at fourteen years,
thirteen years. In India, because it is tropical climate... I think in
Western countries they attain puberty not before fifteen, sixteen years. So
although a girl is married before puberty, she is not allowed to go to the
husband until she has attained puberty. Formerly, in our days also, after
attaining puberty there is another, second marriage. Then the husband and
wife live together.
Radha-vallabha: Is there a minimum age for the man?
Prabhupada: Minimum age means generally the husband must be older than the
wife, at least five years' difference.
Radha-vallabha: What is the most amount of years they can be different? What
is the maximum amount of years there can be difference?
Prabhupada: Man has no maximum. Even an eighty-years-old man can marry a
sixteen-years-old girl. [laughter]
Radha-vallabha: Because this one devotee has a daughter twelve, and he
wanted to marry her to a man twenty-six, but he thought that was too much
difference.
Prabhupada: Yes. That is too much difference. But eight years, ten years
usual.
Radha-vallabha: Eight or ten years is best. So he also wanted to know if...
Prabhupada: That is healthy.
Radha-vallabha: He wanted to know also...
Prabhupada: And in no case... The girl must not be older than the boy.
That's not good at all.
Radha-vallabha: At the time of the agreement, when they are not yet old
enough, they do not associate at all. So not until the actual marriage do
they associate or wear white or anything like that.
Prabhupada: No, even they can be married, but no association.--Ref. VedaBase => Room Conversation -- February 27, 1977, Mayapur
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