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So transcendental pleasure mean feeling of pleasure through Krsna. Just like the gopis and Krsna. Gopis, when they saw Krsna is pleased, they became happy, and Krsna, when He saw that the gopis are happy, He become happier. Again the gopis see that Krsna is happier, they, again they become more happy. In this way, there is competition of happiness. The gopis see Krsna happier; they feel happiness, and Krsna sees gopis happier; Krsna feels happiness. This word is described in the Caitanya-caritamrta: dui lagi hura huri. This is spiritual competition.

So: "Pure devotional service automatically puts one in transcendental pleasure." In the material pleasure, if I see you happy, I am unhappy; If I see you unhappy, I become happy. This is nature. I may say otherwise, but material nature is, if one is put into difficulty, then I become very happy, and if I am happy, others become envious. This is material pleasure. Whereas spiritual pleasure means that when one sees Krsna is happy, a devotee's happy, the other devotee becomes happier. That is spiritual pleasure.

In the spiritual world there is competition, but when one is advanced, the competitor become happy: "Oh, he's so advanced. I could not do so." There is no enviousness. In the material world, if one is advanced, other, who is not advanced, he's envious. This is the difference between spiritual pleasure and material pleasure. It is not difficult to understand.

Material pleasure means if you are happy, I become unhappy; if you are unhappy, then I become happy. This is material pleasure. And spiritual pleasure means by seeing your happiness, I become happy. By seeing... But there is no distress in the spiritual world. Simply by seeing the happiness of other devotee, another devotee becomes happier.

- Srila Prabhupada, Lecture of the The Nectar of Devotion - Vrndavana, November 3, 1972

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While Krsna and Balarama and Their friends were engaged in the pastimes described above, the cows, being unobserved, began to wander off on their own, entering farther and farther into the deepest part of the forest, allured by fresh grasses. The goats, cows and buffalo traveled from one forest to another and entered the forest known as Isikatavi. This forest was full of green grass, and therefore they were allured; but when they entered, they saw that there was a forest fire, and they began to cry. On the other side Balarama and Krsna, along with Their friends, could not find their animals, and They became very much aggrieved. (Krsna Book)

Similarly, if we don't pay attention to how our devotees are doing and don't invest in them, they might wonder off, and go farther and farther from the association of devotees, being allured by the promises of happiness in this world. And Krsna and Balarama will be aggrieved that we lost them.

So let us protect and nurture our devotees by taking nice care of them, investing our time and energy in them, and thus helping them succeed. I believe this will please Lord Krsna and Lord Balarama very much.

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Q: When I speak to people about their problems, I get overwhelmed with or drained by their problems. What to do?

A: You need to change your perception of their problems and your role as a helper. The problems people face are not meant to crush them (or you). They are meant to help them learn, grow and become stronger. Your role is to help them see their problems as opportunities to make advancement and raise consciousness. Then their problems are not a burden even for them, what to speak of you. With that fresh spiritual perspective, their problems become an exciting challenge and opportunity.

The  best way to help people is to help them help themselves. In order to do that, they need to struggle in order to get stronger and wiser. You are not a problem solver but a facilitator of their growth and empowerment. In this way you do greater service for them then simply helping them.