So material relationships are like that, because material relationships are self centred and it is basically based on:
"You are meant to serve my purposes and as long as you co operate with that then I love you, but if you don't then you will have difficulty!"

Spritual life is different and of course if we would all be pure devotees then it would be totally different but we are not pure devotees therefore even in spiritual life some of these elements come in and then what do we do? ...

Then at least bring as much Krishna, as much mercy into our life as we can get. Devotional service is causeless, that means you have no rights - you can say:
'I am a South African citizen I have rights, I have rights!'
You can demand your right and people have over the years demanded their rights, protest marches "we want our rights" and people are protesting for their rights but when it comes to Krishna we have no rights we cannot say:
"You must give me mercy, it's my rights"

No, its his mercy, it's his causeless mercy and if He wants to give He gives if He doesn't want to give He doesn't give and yet this mercy is so great that He can take us to spiritual world a perfect world if He desires so but we cannot say "I have a right, I have a right to go to the spiritual world!"
We don't, it's entirely up to Krishna. Therefore mercy - mercy is what we require and mercy is that one element in our life that we must embrace - Not a member of the opposite sex! but mercy we must embrace- that is the intelligent thing to do and as much mercy as possible and if we somehow or other can take it more and more then we can change the whole situation around…

Transcribed by Madhumati Devi Dasi